Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Eight weeks before delivery & Baker's birth...

I've been debating on how to tell the story of our getting to know the birthparents, our time at the hospital, and the events that took place after delivery for the past few days. I have debated on what is too much, or not enough, to share. There have been so many people that have followed our journey (some we know personally, others only through technology) and have prayed for us fervently along the way. That being said, this story deserves to be told. It is a story of God's faithfulness and of His provision of our (almost) three year desire and longing to grow our family.

We live approximately three and a half hours from the birthmother's house and drove there almost every or every other weekend (for eight weeks) until his birth. God allowed us to develop an especially strong bond with the birthmother and her parents...as well as with the birthfather. We ate, played games, told stories, laughed, watched random videos on youtube...and, oddly enough, there wasn't much talk of Baker during our visits. Granted, there were those special moments where I was able to feel him kick inside her belly and we discussed her wanting us to be at the hospital as soon as she went into labor...but, other than that the conversation was always centered around the birthparents, their families, and us. We began to adore this amazing birthmother, birthfather, and her parents. More and more confirmation was given even single time we met, and through every email we shared, that this was God's plan. Because of this (and due to how cautious we had become based upon our past experiences), Warren and I finally allowed ourselves to feel the excitement...and to prepare for the sweet life that would oon enter our home.

...that excitement, however, was crushed four days before Baker's birth. To make a long story short, our birthfather's mother (who lives out of state) expressed her disapproval of the adoption plan and requested the baby go to her sister. Understandably, our young birthfather became confused and was torn between the choice he had made with certainty and winning his mother's approval. I couldn't eat...couldn't sleep...and was overcome with fear---I had flashbacks of our first failed adoption and began to think, "It's happening again." (Of note, our birthmother never wavered in her decision and both she and her parents continued to reassure Warren and I during this time). I was also incredibly saddened for the position our birthfather fournd himself...my heart ached for him during that time. He was confused...I believe he was being attacked. However, due to the answered prayers of many, the day Baker was born the dust settled, confusion was lifted, and our birthfather had a peace about continuing on with the adoption plan.

At 11:45AM on June 6th, 2011 our birthmother called me to tell me she had just left the doctor's office and was headed to the hospital to begin her induction!! Warren and I quickly packed our bags and began the three and a half hour journey. Labor was long....though the induction began in the early evening, our little man did not enter the world until that next morning. We stayed in the hospital lobby all night--not wanting to miss anything--and would sporadically go in our birthmother's room to check on her. She is such a strong young woman...and had the most positive attitude during this process. We were not able to be in the room during delivery, but since Baker was born "sunny side up" he had a little fluid on his lungs and had to go to the transitional nursery for several hours after his birth...our birthmother requested we accompany him there. What a precious three hours this was! We were able to hold him, feed him, and help him get his first bath...the nurses in the transitional unit (having known we were his adoptive parents) were so incredibly kind...they helped make us comfortable and offered to take several pictures.



The first time we laid eyes on our sweet miracle...


In the transitional nursery...the first few hours of his life...



Looking at those pictures again brings back such sweet memories. We were completely sleep deprived and had been in the same clothes for 24hrs (I know--gross!)...but, that moment, nothing mattered more than looking at and holding our precious son. I am so thankful for the gift God gave us!

After Baker was cleared to leave the transitional nursery, we were able to walk him down to the maternity ward where our birthmother had already transitioned to her room. And, excluding the events surrounding our birthfather's mother, the situation became extremely difficult for the first time...

...to be continued...(--sorry--this would be one gigantic post if I tried to fit it all in) :)

11 comments:

  1. How very precious. You (and he) will be so glad one day that you wrote this. Cannot WAIT to hear the rest..............

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  2. Oh wow, Jill, what an amazing, beautiful story! I was in tears... Looking forward to hearing more.

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  3. Oh my goodness! I LOVE the precious pictures of your first moments with Baker! There is nothing else quite like it. Your story of God's faithfulness is such a blessing to us all!

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  4. Beautiful story - looking forward to hearing the rest!

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  5. What a great story! The first picture of you guys meeting Baker brought tears to my eyes...so special!

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  6. I am excited to see God's story unfold!

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  7. Judy and I are so happy and proud for you. Having adopted, by God's leadership, two of our own, we know and identify with the feelings you both have right now. And...we know the joy and occasional "pain" that you will experience in the future. Sorry to use that word, but life is real. The beauty is, God is real and He is with you in the midst of it all. Congratulations and Praise the Lord! Frieds for life!
    Judy and Charles Jones

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  8. I am crying reading this. I have 3 biological children and one adopted. We went thru failure after failure. Looking back obviously it WAS all God's plan. But, it is a hard road. I am so excited for you all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


    Tina

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  9. I do not know you and your husband, but I have been following your journey for quite sometime and looking at these pictures just brings a huge smile to my face!!!!! I look forward to reading more of the story!

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  10. What an incredible blessing!! So happy for you! Looking forward to hearing the rest of the story and how God moved... :)

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  11. MORE!!! MORE! I can't believe you stopped there!!! We want the long post:). SO incredible...and can't wait to read more!

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